Proposing a trip to India

Yes, my mum did not react well to when I brought up India hahaha

On the positive side, it has made my trip to SEA countries seem much less scary to her

It is very funny because for the last 5 years my mum's reaction has always been the same in response to the inputs. I will propose traveling somewhere and it will be a strong emotional response. It will be a trip to Los Angeles, or to San Francisco, or Boston, or Mexico City

I am never sure what is the most Buddhist way to handle these situations. If I tell my parents about an upcoming trip earlier, then they are reactive for longer. But I am always able to go in the end anyway. They never explicitly say No, but they use the emotional heat to try to dissuade me. This is very interesting because it is like a machine that operates with the same output every time there is the same input. And this is very interesting because in contrast when one is young like myself, every year I have a different perspective, and therefore my mind often gives a different output over time with the same input.

So does the Buddhist, to minimize discomfort to one's parents and oneself, wait to them about the India trip once I'm already in Vietnam by myself, hence am free to do as I please; or does the Buddhist tell their parents early to be truthful? Because, like the machine, the outcome is always the same in the end anyways

So what I do is tell them early, and face the flames, since I can always just practice keeping my inner state calm not attached to the emotion

Or at least try